This post is for the "Average Mom." The mom who is pretty good at cooking, can keep the house somewhat clean sometimes, not so great at crafting, has no real great advice to offer, and is just thankful her kids got fed and are still alive at the end of the day.
With how easy it is to access the internet and all of the "wonderful" things it has to offer us, its easy to compare yourself to those "Super Moms" who seem like they are the ideal homemaker. They make gourmet meals or they make these super cute clothes for theirs. They make crafts for every holiday, and all of their party decorations are handmade yet good enough they could sell them afterwards. Their homes are super organized with matching labeled bins for everything. They have the motivation to exercise every day and lose all of their baby weight in just a couple months.
Now, I'm not saying these women are bad. They are, like I said, "Super Moms." For some reason they were blessed with these talents. But the majority of women were not. I am included in that majority. And the fact that its so easy for these moms to post about their talents and accomplishments, makes it harder for the "Average Mom" not to compare herself to these women. I am jealous of them. I wish I could do all of that and still be such a great mom to my children and wife to my husband like they are. But unfortunately that was not meant to be me.
It has taken me awhile to realize that, its okay that I'm not like that. Its still very difficult for me to not compare myself to them. Especially with pinterest being so addicting. But it is okay that I cannot craft well, or sew at all. I'm not very motivated or organized hardly at all. In fact my house is a disaster 90% of the time.
But we have to realize that just because people are pinning these awesome ideas, recipes, crafts, and exercise routines, doesn't mean they are actually doing it. And just because these women are blogging about how organized their pantry is, doesn't mean the rest of the house looks that way. And who knows, maybe they have to do all of that because the rest of their life isn't so perfect. But that's okay if it isn't. We are all human. We are all moms, so instead of judging and trying to impress each other, why don't we support each other? We should be saying congrats that you made it through another day as a mom and you didn't rip your hair out! We all know how stressful motherhood is.
So basically what I'm trying to say is, if your a "Super Mom" then kudos to you. You are one of the few who are talented. Keep doing what your doing, but also remember that not everyone is as talented in those ways as you are. And if your an "Average Mom" like me, kudos to you, too. You are great, and there is nothing wrong with you. Our children will love us the same whether their shirt is bought or hand sewn. What they care about is that you spend time with them, and show them love in the only way you know how. Whatever way that may be.
Please join me in my effort to equalize all of us mom's. Don't take pins, blogs and posts to heart. Live your life and give support to all others. Don't judge anyone, including yourself. We are all moms!!!!
Saturday, August 17, 2013
Thursday, August 8, 2013
Oliver is 2 Months old!
Oliver is two months old now! In a way it seems like it went by so fast, but then it also seems like he has always been here!
He had his two month check up on the 7th. He weighs 13 lbs 6 oz and is 24 inches long. That puts him at 75% for his weight and 90% for his height! His sure is a big boy. For comparison he weighed 7 lbs 9 oz and was 20 inches at birth, and then 8 lbs 7 oz and 21.75 inches at two weeks. He is nothing like his petite "little" big sister. He still fits in 0-3 months clothes, but not for long. There is not much room for growth left.
The doctor was very impressed with him. He is growing quickly and developing just as fast. He still smiles, a lot. Its so easy to get a smile out of him, and he is so so so close to giggling! I can't wait for that day. His eyes are developing like they should, and he is getting pretty good at holding up his head. He also prefers to sit up now. He loves to be able to sit up and look around.
After he was born, when they were doing his exam and tests, the nurse had a concern about his heart. She said she could hear his heartbeat louder on the right instead of the left side. So they took him to X-ray his chest. The radiologist didn't see anything abnormal. His heart was in the right place and looked normal. And the pediatrician said everything sounded fine the next day. But when we went to his two week appointment she heard a murmur. She thought it was closing up and recommended we wait until his two month check and see if it closes up. Well, IT DID! She could not hear any trace of the murmur!
I was so happy when she told me that! I know small heart murmurs aren't a big deal but, as a mother, you don't want there to be anything wrong with your children. No matter how small it may be.
We are still exclusively breast feeding! I can't believe how difficult it can be. I rarely get a break since I'm really the only one who can feed him. But its definitely worth it. Not only does it save us money, but I get that extra bonding time with him that no one but me gets.
He is still doing good with falling asleep on his own, but he will only take naps in the swing in the front room. He sleeps just fine at night in the bassinet, but will not nap in it or in the pack n play in Cambry's room. But I figure its not a big deal because it will help him learn to sleep through noise.
He had his two month check up on the 7th. He weighs 13 lbs 6 oz and is 24 inches long. That puts him at 75% for his weight and 90% for his height! His sure is a big boy. For comparison he weighed 7 lbs 9 oz and was 20 inches at birth, and then 8 lbs 7 oz and 21.75 inches at two weeks. He is nothing like his petite "little" big sister. He still fits in 0-3 months clothes, but not for long. There is not much room for growth left.
The doctor was very impressed with him. He is growing quickly and developing just as fast. He still smiles, a lot. Its so easy to get a smile out of him, and he is so so so close to giggling! I can't wait for that day. His eyes are developing like they should, and he is getting pretty good at holding up his head. He also prefers to sit up now. He loves to be able to sit up and look around.
After he was born, when they were doing his exam and tests, the nurse had a concern about his heart. She said she could hear his heartbeat louder on the right instead of the left side. So they took him to X-ray his chest. The radiologist didn't see anything abnormal. His heart was in the right place and looked normal. And the pediatrician said everything sounded fine the next day. But when we went to his two week appointment she heard a murmur. She thought it was closing up and recommended we wait until his two month check and see if it closes up. Well, IT DID! She could not hear any trace of the murmur!
I was so happy when she told me that! I know small heart murmurs aren't a big deal but, as a mother, you don't want there to be anything wrong with your children. No matter how small it may be.
We are still exclusively breast feeding! I can't believe how difficult it can be. I rarely get a break since I'm really the only one who can feed him. But its definitely worth it. Not only does it save us money, but I get that extra bonding time with him that no one but me gets.
He is still doing good with falling asleep on his own, but he will only take naps in the swing in the front room. He sleeps just fine at night in the bassinet, but will not nap in it or in the pack n play in Cambry's room. But I figure its not a big deal because it will help him learn to sleep through noise.
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